Life is always so much easier when you can walk thru this life with someone who loves you despite your flaws, who never judges you, who understands your weird quirks and why you are the way that you are, who simply just gets you. Not only do they understand you, but they get your family dynamic so when you complain about your parents or your siblings they understand while being able to maintain a healthy relationship with the person that you are complaining about. They share memories with you that stem from birth and all of the shenanigans that you got into as a child. Yup, you know who I am talking about. Your cousin. You always have your forever best friend in a cousin. You didn’t have to go searching for your best friend because you were simply born into this awesome friendship.
Age doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter if you are ten months apart or ten years, you will always have your cousin. Your older cousin is the one who you look up to, is the coolest, and probably babysat you at some point. Your cousin that is your age is the one that you got in the most trouble with. Of course, your baby cousin is the one you politely picked on. All 3 relationships are very different, but are equally important.
You probably look just alike and you love it when people tell you that.
My Emilia’s baby pictures look just like her nieces and nephews. Emilia’s baby pictures look so much like them that sometimes I even question what child is in the picture. I guess the saying is true…looks run in the family.
Family gatherings are always fun.
You don’t mind going to family reunions, dinners, or even go on family vacations because your cousin is there. Family gatherings are for you to reminisce on all of the trouble that you and your cousin got into back in the day and for you to make new memories with.
They keep it real.
You don’t have to worry about hurting your cousin’s feelings because you have this non spoken code of forgive and forget. There is freedom in your relationship to be brutally honest, yet deep down you know it is out of love. It’s ok if your cousin hates your boyfriend and tells you he is a loser. At the end of the day, you may get mad at your cousin for not liking your boyfriend, but you know you will get over it because you need your cousin by your side at the next awkward family function.
They get your weirdness.
You grow up with your cousin. Your weirdness isn’t weird. Everything about you is the norm to your cousin and they still love you.
They give you your space.
Your cousin is like a sibling that visits and stays for the summer. You cannot wait to spend to them, but you know they are not staying over permanently. You get your awesome play time in and then they go back to their own house. They are always their for you when you need them, but there is enough distance to prevent driving you bonkers. Your relationship with your cousin is different than it is with your sibling because you are always excited for your next hang out session.
They always have your back.
Your cousin is always there for you because not only are you best friends, but you are family. Simply put, you don’t mess with family.
They give you strength.
When the unfortunate time comes and something difficult happens such as a death in the family, a divorce, a long distant move, your cousin, in some way, experiences this with you. Your cousin is the one person that can say ‘I understand,’ but they would never because they know better. Your cousin is the one person that you can cry to and spill your guts to and they understand that you are just having a moment yet somehow they know just what to do to make you feel strong again.
Blood is thicker than water.
A friend is there for you when you call, but a cousin shows up with pizza and brownies because they can. Friends come ago, but a cousin is forever.