Obviously there is no such thing as a perfect labor and delivery. Giving birth is probably going to be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but it is almost the most incredible experience. You have probably spent the last 9 months thinking about what it’s going to be like the day you start having contractions. Is it going to be like the movies and full of panic? Will you be completely at peace and just so ready to meet your baby? Or will you just be seriously scared to death of what’s about to happen? Honestly, you are probably going to feel panic, peace, excitement, and fear all at the same time even if you have given birth before and that is completely normal. However with some planning, you can have the ideal labor and delivery experience.
Deciding on who will be in the room with you.
I believe the most important decision that an expecting mother should make when it comes to the big day of your baby’s arrival is who will be in the room with you. You will experience so many different emotions when you are labor that you will want to surround yourself with people that will be there for you and keep you calm. You do not want the added stress of pleasing someone that you might not want in the room with you as you are preparing to bring a human into the world. Childbirth is not a party. Childbirth is an extremely intimate, private experience. Your level of pain tolerance is going to be tested. You are going to experience extreme exhaustion. Your lady parts are going to be exposed…no way around it. The last thing you need to be doing is entertaining a group of people. Remember mama…this day is all about you. It’s ok to be selfish. It’s not ok to be worried about pleasing other people.
Whether you choose to diffuse, inhale or apply to pressure points, essential oils are great in helping make your labor experience more ideal. Lavender is a great oil to use as it can calm your nerves and anxiety. Peppermint oil and Spearmint are great for giving you a boost of energy. Lemon is excellent for easing nausea. Plus the hospital staff will benefit from these oils as well. If you are wanting to take advantage of essential oils but are unsure of what oils to get, DoTerra offers an amazing labor kit that I highly recommend. Another company called Perfectly Posh, offers skin sticks that you can rub across pressure points that allow instant relief. I particular enjoy the Sleepy Stick which is lavender base, Just Chillin which is made with peppermint, menthol, and aloe (perfect for a cool down), and Perk Stick which is also made with peppermint oil and is great for battling headaches. If you choose to use essential oils, I would recommend consulting with your OB Gyn or Doula before you go into labor as well as the hospital that you are delivering at if you are diffusing the oil.
As a huge music lover, I personally found music to be a great distraction from the pain and anxiety that I felt during labor. Prior to going into labor, I created a play list of music that was sentimental to me whether it reminded me of my marriage, my daughter, or just happy times in general.
Here is just a few songs that were part of my labor play list:
- River by Leon Bridges
- My Girl by The Temptations
- What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong
- Heavenly Day by Patty Griffith
- Brown Eyed Girl by Van Morrison
- Come Live With Me by Ray Charles
- These Arms of Mine by Otis Redding
- Magic by Coldplay
- Green Eyes by Coldplay
- Fix You by Coldplay
- Sweet Pea by Amos Lee
- Angel by Jack Johnson
- Outro by M83
- Into the Mystic by Van Morrison
- A Beautiful Mess by Jason Mraz
- I’m Yours by Jason Mraz
- Sweet Caroline by Neal Diamond
- I Won’t Give Up by Jason Mraz
- Imagine by John Lennon
- Something Just Like This by The Chainsmokers and Coldplay
- Into the Mystic by The Swell Season
- The Way I Am by Ingrid Michaelson
- Over the Rainbow by Eric Clapton
- Girls Chase Boys by Ingrid Michaelson
- Everyday People by Sly & The Family Stone
- With a Little Help From My Friends by Joe Cocker
- Hello, You Beautiful Thing by Jason Mraz
- Someone Like You by Van Morrison
- Sign of the Times by Harry Styles
Pictures are great to utilize while you are in labor whether it bit a picture of your pet, other children, husband, favorite vacation spot, etc… Pictures are great to focus on during a hard contraction, when the nurses are annoying you or perhaps family, or just when you need a reminder of happier times. Even if you are guaranteed an easy labor, ( let’s face it…no one is guaranteed an easy labor) you will still want to be surrounded by some comfort.
Oh and please, don’t be worried about perfect hair and makeup. Your going to be pushing a human out of you. Doesn’t that already make you beautiful?
I was in labor for over twenty five hours. Those twenty five hours were the most exhausting hours of my life, but they were also the most amazing. Bringing a baby into this world will change your life. Those hours that you are in labor will be your finest hours and I cannot wait for you to experience them.
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